Is there anything more frustrating than an ungrateful child?

You put a roof over their head, food on their table, plus everything else they want and need, and they still complain. 

We fault the child, but the fault is with us. We overindulge our children, and we coddle our children. There's one more thing we do too; we complain too much!

It's not easy raising kids in the West without extended family support. Many of us are working overtime, giving us cause for complaint, but complaining in front of our children is a terrible example to set for them.

As you don’t want to deal with whining kids all the time, you will first need to get a handle on your own feelings of overwhelm or discontentment.

At the very least, try not to be verbal about them when your kids are present.  

States of mind are contagious; if we complain, our kids will complain. It's a pretty simple equation. 

If you want to create an attitude of gratitude in your home, here's three things you can do to help your children:

Zero Tolerance for Complaining

Do not allow your kids to get into the habit of complaining. If you have a child who is prone to complaining, you want to get on top of this habit and help him correct it. Complaining is a bad habit; if you aim to raise a content child, you have to help him break it. 

No, No, and No

Say no to your children's wants. It's common to see children throwing tantrums in stores because the parent says no to something they want.

While it's commendable that they said no, allowing a child to throw a tantrum in the store only shows us that the parent has no control over their child.

Don't be this parent. 

The general rule of thumb, according to John Rosemond, is to say no to 75 % of your children's wants and oblige them 25% of the time. 

Get your children into the habit of hearing "no," and they will be much more grateful when they get a "yes," from you. It's a matter of supply and demand. If you supply them with a lot of "yes's," they'll be demanding. 

Gratitude Ritual

Start an evening gratitude ritual. Before you read bedtime stories to your children, sit quietly in a circle with your children and let each child take a turn expressing three things that he was grateful for that day.

You'll be amazed at the things your kids will think of to say.

Warning: try not to judge the things your kids say they are grateful for. They most likely will not be deep and meaningful expressions of gratitude.

They are kids!

Expect them to be thankful for little things, such as they got to ride their bike or visiting with a friend. Maybe they'll say they're grateful for you!

What they say isn't important, though; it's the act of reflecting on the blessings and stating them out loud that matters. You are helping your children to develop an attitude of gratitude.

It’s a good habit to acquire, too; the habit of focusing on the roses instead of the thorns. Reflect for a moment on how it affects our outlook when we focus on the good and overlook the bad?

And that makes all the difference.

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Elizabeth Y. Hanson is an Educator, Homeschool Emerita, Writer, and a Love and Leadership Certified Parenting Coach with 20 years of experience working in children’s education.

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