My Dad Is a B***head
You may be shocked by this title. Truthfully, it shocks me. The good news is that it isn't mine. The bad news is that it's the title of a book published in 2014. A father wrote the book for his son.
On the book's dedication page, you find it dedicated to said author's adoring family.
B***head.
I can think of some lessons I'd like to teach young children, but that their father is a b***head is not one of them.
THE MORAL
The moral of this father's story is that no matter how rude your child is to you, no matter how disrespectful he is towards you, he loves you.
That's the moral as far as I could make out. But truthfully, I'm not even sure there was a moral to the story.
So why am I devoting time to this book?
Unlike some parents, you probably have enough sense not to pick up a copy of such a vulgar book to read to your child. However, you may not be exactly sure about what does constitute a good book.
It's not your fault, either. Our great books for children have been replaced by silly books that give children the wrong ideas or books that don’t have much substance.
WHAT YOU READ DOES MATTER
While it's vitally important to your child's future education that you read to him when he's young, the quality of the material you read is equally important.
Elevate His Mind
Literature should elevate a child's mind, not debase it. He (she) should encounter heroes and heroines that are worthy of emulation.
The characters should be intelligent, kind-hearted, brave, and well-mannered. Think of Pollyanna, Anne of Green Gables, and Little Lord Fauntleroy.
Teach Language Skills
Literature should teach children excellent language skills and develop their vocabulary. As an older child, when he comes across words such as philanthropists, humiliation, valiant, nautical, or grave, he'll already be familiar with them.
Test your ten-year-old now. Is your child familiar with these words? If not, you may want to reevaluate the kind of literature you're exposing him to.
Respect
Furthermore, of utmost importance is the attitude the story’s characters have towards adults and especially towards their parents. They should possess an attitude of reverence, respect, and obedience.
Any child's book that features ill-mannered, vulgar children as the hero or heroine should not be allowed.
(A word of caution though: if your children are reading sub-standard literature, then be clever in how you forbid these sorts of books. Better to let the books secretly disappear as you replace them with quality literature than to make an issue of it.)
THE UNDERLYING CONCERN
The bigger problem with the B***head story is that it father wrote it for his son. I would guess, from reading the book, that his son is spoiled and ill-mannered.
If the father doesn't have enough common sense to realize that he should not have written this book, he cannot possibly understand what's required of him to raise a decent child.
This is the plight many parents find themselves in today. We want to raise an exemplary child, but we have no idea how to go about it, so we write books that are a better fit for the garbage can than our children’s ears.
We need to get a handle on what makes a decent person, of what makes a happy person, of what makes a successful person, and then we need to do our best to provide a suitable environment for our child to become this person.
Reading good literature to your child is a prudent place to start.
It's simply a matter of choosing the right books to read.
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