Hope is a precious quality of the human spirit and the thing upon which resilience lies. There are many things wrong with the world, but hope is something we want to help our children preserve, because there is tremendous good in the world too.
“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”
There are ways we can help our children to experience a sense of goodness regardless of what is going on at home or in the world, so they don't lose sight of all that is right. Instead, they remain hopeful, even in the face of great struggles and adversities.
“It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life — daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.”
Serve Others
One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is the gift of serving others. When families were larger and lived closer together, there were always people in the family who needed help.
A child might be asked to get his grandfather a blanket, after the sun set and the house started to chill, or to look after a younger sibling while his mother was busy in the kitchen, or to help an elderly neighbor carry her groceries into the house.
But with the myriad changes in society, such as grandparents moving into rest homes, children going to day care and preschools at early ages, and neighbors remaining strangers to one another, we no longer call on children for these things.
Yet, when children help take care of others, they feel good about it and it makes the person they help happy. There is an exchange of goodness between the two.
Children also develop a sense of their ability to affect change by helping others, and that acts of kindness aren’t only for the receiver, but for the doer too.
Silence is Golden
When there are awful things happening in the world, children don't need to know about them unless if affects them directly. Hearing about crime in our neighborhoods or war with other countries, or the struggle of inflation only produces anxiety in their young hearts. Keeping children in a bubble preserves their innocence, for in their innocence lies much hope.
“But I know, somehow, that only when it is dark enough can you see the stars. ”
Pets Make Children Happy
A pet can be a tremendous comfort to a child. When a child has a pet to care for, it becomes his friend, and his pet will be soothing for him and bring him joy while he's growing up. Taking care of an animal is a form of service too, so he reaps all of the benefits that come with service too.
Don't Worry, Be Happy
Children sense our moods and internal states, so try to find some peace and calm, even if everything is falling apart around you. Build things you look forward to into your day. It may be something as simple as having a hot cup of tea and reading a good book in the afternoon, but try to keep your state hopeful, because we need to mirror hope for our children.
Rumi said, “It’s rigged — everything, in your favor. So there is nothing to worry about."
I believe this saying works for us collectively, too. There are so many variables in life we can't control, even in times of war. I've read of many battles lost and won because of the unexpected, such as the wind suddenly changing directions, someone becoming a traitor to his side, or a sudden death of a leader.
We never know when the winds will change, we just know they'll change.
Here is a beautiful poem about hope that you can help your children memorize today, and they will have it for life:
"Hope" Is the Thing with Feathers
“Hope” is the thing with feathers -
That perches in the soul -
And sings the tune without the words -
And never stops - at all -
And sweetest - in the Gale - is heard -
And sore must be the storm -
That could abash the little Bird
That kept so many warm -
I’ve heard it in the chillest land -
And on the strangest Sea -
Yet - never - in Extremity,
It asked a crumb - of me.
—Emily Dickinson
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